Family

Dr. John Gottman, a relationship specialist, is famous for being able to predict if a relationship will succeed or not within minutes of meeting them. He doesn't have some super power or sixth sense. He's just really good at observing how people talk to each other.  Communication is key to keeping the relationship alive and eliminating walls between one another. It prevents wars and saves families and friendships.  It seems so simple, yet so many people struggle with it. So, what is it that prevents effective communication? For most people it's insecurity. In life what we all strive for is to be accepted. We don't want to be seen as weak, because if we show our weak side they'll take advantage of it and tear you down. I'm sure these aren't actual thoughts that go through people's minds, but it does happen subconsciously. We all have a natural tendency to want to protect ourselves. Due to this tendency, we don't share our feelings. This is a huge prob...

Goal in life always seems to be as comfortably as possible. We want to be rich and live in a big house where people do our cleaning for us. We work to not have to work. We want the same thing for our kids as well. I've heard of parents who have made it in life say that they're going to use their success so that their kids don't have to struggle as they did. We need to realize that avoiding pain stress and trials isn't the goal. In psychology, there's a chart called the Yerkes-Dodson Law. In this chart, it gives a scatter plot of the relationship between stress and performance. As stress goes up so does performance. As stress continues to go up performance peaks and starts to go down. According to this chart there is a level of stress that gives best performance. This chart varies based on the complexity of the task. The more complex the task, the less stress required to hit peak performance. Stress can help a ton when it comes to getting stuff done and succeeding ...

Sex is always one of those taboo topics. There's a lot of stigma around it and whenever it's talked about it's usually considered vulgar, gross, funny, or humiliating. First of all sex doesn't have to be vulgar or any of those things. In fact it isn't any of those things. Sex is a Godlike power given to man. It gives us the ability to bring life into this world as well as a way of communicating to our spouse in the most intimate way. It's something sacred not secret. Sex is very similar to the temple. When we look at the temple and the sacred ordinances done in the temple, we don't think eww gross or laugh and make fun of it. It's something that is sacred. It is talked about in the most reverent manner and brings the spirit into our lives. This should be the same with sex. It's something sacred that we do. When talking with our children about it, we should use this approach of sacredness. We should talk openly about it, but in a reverent way. The...

It can be kind of scary going into a marriage. For me I question if I'm making the right decision. In the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints we believe that Marriage, within the temple, is eternal. I'm going to be with this person forever, even beyond the grave. This person will also be the parent of my children. This is the person that will know everything about me and my family and thus has power to tear it down intentionally or unintentionally. Will I get annoyed by this person, and will I fight with this person? Can I trust this person with all of these things? With fears like these it can be hard to continue and make that commitment, but that really is what it takes is commitment. Many people have bought in to the idea of cohabitation. This is where a person moves in with their significant other to see what it's like to live with them. It seems like a good plan from the outside but inward it really is a trap. In a study done by William G. Axinn and Arland Th...